This weekend was fantastic! I got to spend much needed time with wonderful friends, see old friends, and made new friends. Therefore, this weekend was awesome!
I went to a conference in Athens on Saturday called "Love Life" with Mark Driscoll. It was REALLY good. To sum up the conference, it was about relationships and how God intended us to have relationship whether it's a dating relationship or a marriage. Courtney and I were not able to stay the whole time but I will highlight a few interesting things I learned.
1. Girls are talkers and Guys are doers- I've never really gave it much thought before how girls and guys build relationships differently. When girls hang out with one another, the night is filled with dinner and coffee and LOTS of talking. We are very content with this and this is how we build relationships with one another. Guys on the other hand tend not to spend their evening doing this, they tend to go play some kind of sport or go hiking. They build relationships by doing something rather than talking. Mark stated that it's important for guys to spend time talking with their girlfriends or wives because this is how women build relationship. Girls on the other hand need to be sure and do something with their boyfriends or husbands such as watching a football game with them or doing something with them that they enjoy because this is how they build relationships. It's definitely a two way street lady's and gents.
2. Friendship is key. In order to build a healthy relationship, it's important to build a friendship with your significant other. My mother has always told me that you need to marry someone who is your best friend, I've always agreed with her. It was really cool for Mark to talk about how the Bible backs up this theory in the Song of Solomon. He made a comment during his lecture that confused me, he stated that he had been married to his wife for 10 years before he found out she was a rape victim. I was so puzzled on how he could have dated her 5 years and been married 10 and had not known this. Later, he began to discuss how when relationships become physical it brings in different emotions into the relationship. The emotions that are brought in are not apart of the friendship building process. He later confessed that him and his wife were having sex before they were married, this made everything make sense. He stated that him and his wife struggled for the first 10 years of their marriage due to this decision, because they had not been able to build the friendship God had intended them to build first.
3. Confidence is attractive. When a christian man is confident enough to approach a woman and pursue her, woman finds this attractive. A woman also has great respect for a man who is willing to understand that she does not want to be pursued by him and gracefully and respectfully backs off. Not to mention that a women is more likely to recommend you to her friends if you're willing to respect her like this (just throwing that out there guys). I personally already knew this one, but I just thought I'd share it anyways :-)
Overall, it was a great weekend! I want to share a few verses I ran across in my quiet time. I think they might be encouraging and greatly needed for some people.
Love you all! :-)
"For no one is abandoned by the Lord forever.Though he brings grief, he also shows compassion because of the greatness of his unfailing love. For he does not enjoy hurting people or causing them sorrow." Lamentations 3:31-33
"But I called on your name, Lord, from deep within the pit. You heard me when I cried, 'Listen to my pleading! Hear my cry for help!' Yes, you came when I called; you told me, 'Do not fear.' Lord, you are my lawyer! Plead my case! For you have redeemed my life." Lamentations 3:55-58
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